The following is a brief summary of some of thoughts said over by R' Frand on the parshios this evening. I have attempted to reproduce these vorts to the best of my ability. Any perceived inconsistency is the result of my efforts to transcribe the shiur and should not be attributed to R' Frand.
R' Frand began by quoting the Da'as Zekeinim M'Baalei HaTosafos which discusses the death of Nadav & Avihu. They cite a pasuk in Tehillim 78:63 - בַּֽחוּרָ֥יו אָֽכְלָה־אֵ֑שׁ וּ֜בְתוּלֹתָ֗יו לֹ֣א הוּלָּֽלוּ and apply it to the reason Aharon's sons died. They said about themselves - our father is the Kohain Gadol, our uncle is the leader of the Jews and another uncle is the Nasi of the tribe of Levi - we are too good for these women and they did not marry. As a result, they were consumed by fire because they did not praise the Besulos.
R' Frand remarked that there are times that a Bochur will not say yes to a potential Shidduch because they think too much of themselves. This is a Musar Haskel to the contrary.
R' Frand said a second vort on the pasuk in Vayikra 19:15 - לֹא־תַֽעֲשׂ֥וּ עָ֨וֶל֙ בַּמִּשְׁפָּ֔ט לֹֽא־תִשָּׂ֣א פְנֵי־דָ֔ל וְלֹ֥א תֶהְדַּ֖ר פְּנֵ֣י גָד֑וֹל בְּצֶ֖דֶק תִּשְׁפֹּ֥ט עֲמִיתֶֽךָ. Rashi learns from the end of the pasuk the concept of being Dan L'Kaf Zechus.
R' Frand remarked that sometimes its hard to give the benefit of the doubt. He quoted the famous story in Gemara Shabbos 127b where a person had travelled from the south and had worked for a northern resident for three years. At the end of three years he asked for payment on Erev Yom Kippur so that he could return and provide for his family for the upcoming holiday. The employer had nothing to offer, be it money, produce, land, animals, etc. The employee returned home empty handed.
Shortly after the holiday, the employer travelled to the south with three donkey laden with food, drink and delicacies, along with money for the employee. When he found the former employee he asked what the employee had thought when he had said that he had nothing to pay with. The Gemara breaks down each requested form of compensation and the excuse the employee had formulated in his head as to why the employer legitimately could not make payment. After the employer confirmed that each excuse was correct, he showered the employee with gifts and said to him - the same way that you gave me the benefit of the doubt, Hashem should do the same for you.
R' Frand then asked how can Hashem be Dan L'Kaf Zechus. When you see someone doing something which appears questionable, you can think about how he might be doing it for a legitimate purpose. But Hashem knows what and why the person is doing, so how can He be Dan L'Kaf Zechus.
R' Frand answered by quoting the Mishna in Pirkei Avos 1:6 - וֶהֱוֵי דָן אֶת כָּל הָאָדָם לְכַף זְכוּת: The Ba'al Shem Tov analyzes the words כָּל הָאָדָם and stated that this means that when judging a person, you need to know the entire story - where he came from, what is his background, what are the issues that he is facing presently, etc. The Bracha that was given by the employer was that Hashem should view the entire body of the employee's life in judging him and being Dan L'Kaf Zechus.
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