Thursday, June 22, 2023

Thursday's Parsha Tidbits - Parshas Korach

The following is a brief summary of some of thoughts said over by R' Frand on the parsha this evening. I have attempted to reproduce these vorts to the best of my ability. Any perceived inconsistency is the result of my efforts to transcribe the shiur and should not be attributed to R' Frand.

On the bottom of Sanhedrin 109b, the gemara discusses On ben Peles - a person who is mentioned in the first pasuk of Korach, but is never heard from again. The gemara relates that On's wife talked On out of participating in Korach's plot to challenge Moshe. On's wife tells On - why are you getting involved with Korach? It should not make a difference to you as to whether Moshe or Korach is right as you will wind up a follower under either of them. On then tells his wife - what can I do, I already promised them that I would join! On's wife takes care of the problem as she gets him drunk puts him to sleep, before sitting with her hair uncovered outside of their tent. When Korach's band of men come to look for On to join them, they are embarrassed upon seeing that her hair is uncovered, so they leave without On.

The Gemara then compares On's wife to the wise woman in Mishlei 14:1 about whom it is written - חַכְמ֣וֹת נָ֖שִׁים בָּנְתָ֣ה בֵיתָ֑הּ. But R' Frand asked - what was the chachma? It was obvious that On would not gain from fighting this battle! R' Frand answered by quoting R' Chaim Shmulevitz who explains that that the chachma was that in the heat of an argument she did not lose her head. Generally when people argue they stop thinking or stop listening, but she was able to convince her husband not to get involved.

R' Frand that the concept can be seen in the way that Moshe addressed Korach in Bamidbar 16:5 as he tells Korach -  בֹּ֠קֶר וְיֹדַ֨ע. Why does Moshe tell him that we will see in the morning? Because Moshe knew that there was no point in arguing now, but perhaps in the morning he could convince Korach to abandon the argument.

R' Frand linked this to the story in Sefer Chassidim about a man who had to travel many years away from his home. When he returned more than a decade later he saw his wife embracing another man and he wanted to kill him! He walked away instead and when he returned the next day he was told that was his son. We see from this that when angry, a person should stop and not act impulsively. 

R' Frand mentioned a story told by R' Wein that Abraham Lincoln used to have a drawer in his desk where he put angry letters that he had written to his generals. He would then take them out weeks later and was thankful he had not dispatched them.

R' Frand also quoted R' Melech Biederman who had a different take on the pasuk. He explained that Moshe wanted to wait until the morning because it would give the 250 followers of Korach an opportunity to do a Cheshbon Hanefesh as suggested by the Zohar before going to sleep. They actually did reflect, but they felt that they were too far gone and that teshuva was not an option. 

R' Biderman quoted the Arugas HaBosem who explains that this is why Moshe was commanded to take the pans that had been used and fashion them into a covering for the Mizbeyach. They had thought that they could not do teshuva, but the linking of the pans to the Mizbeyach is symbolic that everyone can return.

R' Frand said a final vort on the pasuk in Bamidbar 17:24 which states that after Aharon's staff flowered, everyone else took theirs home. But why would they keep it?

R' Frand answered in the name of R' Zalman Sorotskin that the staffs were symbols that could be displayed in the homes of those who were unsuccessful. Each man could point to the staff and say - I was willing to give up the comfortable life and become a Kohain where I would be beholden to others for priestly gifts in order to survive. But I was willing to do that if it meant that I could serve Hashem.

R' Frand compared this to the runners who participate in marathons and keep their number bibs on display. They can proudly say - I did not win the marathon, but I did compete.

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Friday, June 16, 2023

Belated Parsha Tidbits - Parshas Shelach

The following is a brief summary of some of thoughts said over by R' Frand on the parsha this evening. I have attempted to reproduce these vorts to the best of my ability. Any perceived inconsistency is the result of my efforts to transcribe the shiur and should not be attributed to R' Frand.

The Torah writes in Bamidbar 13:32 that when the spies came back they said אֶ֣רֶץ אֹכֶ֤לֶת יֽוֹשְׁבֶ֨יהָ֙ הִ֔וא  . Rashi explains this to mean that everywhere they went they saw people burying their dead, so the spies thought that the country was consuming its people. But they did not realize that this was done for their benefit as this would have left everyone too busy to pay attention to them.

R' Frand asked in the name of R' Dovid Zetl (sp?) - why would one think that this was for their benefit? R' Frand drew a parallel to the early days of COVID. If you were in a large city and there were constantly ambulances taking people to the hospital and many deaths, why would you think that this was for your benefit to distract them from you?

He answered by giving a mashal - imagine being in Bnei Brak, standing across from a bus stop and seeing a group of chiloni teenagers. The bus came and when it left they are no longer standing there. You assume that they did not disappear into thin air. Now imagine again that its Shabbos and R' Chaim Kanievsky ZTL is sitting on the bench at the bus stop. The bus comes and then it leaves and he is no longer there. Would you assume that he took the bus to the mall? You would not assume he ever took a bus on Shabbos unless it was to save a life.

R' Frand said that all of us have someone in our lives that we trust to the point that we would never believe that person would do something to hurt us. How could they think that Hashem who made the 10 makkos and took the Jews out of Egypt and gave us the Torah and protected us in the desert - would he bring us to a land that would kill all of us? We may not know why R' Chaim was at the bus stop, but we can be sure that he was not mechallel Shabbos. So too there was no reason that Hashem would bring us to a land where the land would consume us.

The Torah states in 13:33 that the spies said וַנְּהִ֤י בְעֵינֵ֨ינוּ֙ כַּֽחֲגָבִ֔ים וְכֵ֥ן הָיִ֖ינוּ בְּעֵֽינֵיהֶֽם. The Medrash says that Hashem accepted that they said that in their own eyes they thought they were like grasshoppers, but why would you think that in someone else's eyes you were like grasshoppers?

The Sfas Emes explains that they thought that because they overheard the giants saying that they saw what looked like grasshoppers in the vineyards. But having said that, the reason they looked at us like that is because we saw ourselves that way. Because the way that we think about ourselves, other people will perceive us the same way.

Rabbi Frand noted that a person is supposed to be humble, but that does not mean that a person should think they are a nobody. If a person thinks who am I, that is false humility. R' Frand told a story about a Yeshiva that would go to the mountains in the summer to learn. There was a ba'al teshuva who came to learn with the boys in the Yeshiva. The Rosh Yeshiva saw him and came over to talk to him...and noticed later that the man was not happy. He asked why? 

The man responded - I see that the boys learn and its so easy for them and I am working so hard. Does Hashem have pleasure from my learning? The Rosh Yeshiva told him a story about Arturo Tuscanini who was an Italian conductor. One day they were going to play one of his pieces but he was not well enough to be there and he listened over the radio. A reporter went to interview him and asked what was the problem? He responded that there were supposed to be 15 violins and there were only 14 and they missed a special note for the 15th that he wanted heard. The Rosh Yeshiva said that if Tuscanini is such a conductor is upset that one violin is missing, Hashem is looking for your voice in the Beis Medrash and he is disappointed when you are not there.

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Thursday, June 8, 2023

Thursday's Parsha Tidbits - Parshas Beha'aloescha

The following is a brief summary of some of thoughts said over by R' Frand on the parsha this evening. I have attempted to reproduce these vorts to the best of my ability. Any perceived inconsistency is the result of my efforts to transcribe the shiur and should not be attributed to R' Frand.

R' Frand began by quoting the Apter Rav who is often mentioned by the name of his Sefer - Ohev Yisrael. He famously said that every parsha in the Torah has an aspect of Ahavas Yisrael. R' Frand mentioned a story that he said may be apocryphal wherein the Ohev Yisrael's chassidim asked him where Ahavas Yisrael is mentioned in Parshas Balak. He answered - its in the name of the Parsha as it is an acronym for V'Ahavta L'Reacha Camocha. They asked - but V'Ahavta begins with a Vuv and Camocha with a Chuf? He then responded that if you are so midakdek you will never come to Ahavas Yisrael.

R' Frand said that he used that as an introduction because he similarly feels that the concept of HaKaras HaTov can be found in every parsha in the Torah and that it is a fundamental underlying concept. R' Frand quoted the Medrash Tanchuma which details a conversation between the Jews and Hashem about the Menorah. After Hashem asked the Jews to light the Menorah they responded - Hashem you are the light of the world. Why do you need our light? Hashem responded - I want to give you an opportunity to repay the favor and to be Makir Tov.

The Medrash then uses the Mashal of a blind man and a sighted man who are walking through the forest with the sighted man leading the way. When they reach the home they are travelling to, the sighted man asked the blind man to light the candle. He responded - you led us through the forest - I could not have gotten here without you, so why are you asking me to light the candle? He answered - because I wanted to give you an opportunity to give back and be Makir Tov.

R' Frand quoted the Brisker Rav who observed that a person can have many flaws. But if the person cannot recognize the good done for him by others, he has a flaw in his humanity.

R' Frand quoted Devarim 32:6 where the Torah states - הַ לְיהֹוָה֙ תִּגְמְלוּ־זֹ֔את עַ֥ם נָבָ֖ל וְלֹ֣א חָכָ֑ם. R' Frand asked what is a  נָבָ֖ל? He said that an animal while alive is an animal, but after death is a Neveilah - this is a person or a nation which is disgraceful because it does not recognize what Hashem does for them.

R' Frand observed that Beha'alosecha is the beginning of the series of stories of the Jews' troubles in Sefer Bamidbar. In Bamidbar 11:1 the Torah states - וַיְהִ֤י הָעָם֙ כְּמִתְאֹ֣נְנִ֔ים רַ֖ע - the nation was complaining and Hashem responded by punishing the Jews. The Ramban explains that this occurred because the Jews should have been rejoicing for all the good that had been done for them, but instead they complained. If one views the pesukim about the manna where they were complaining, there is a curious insertion in 11:7-8 of the wonder of the manna and all of its magical properties. This was Hashem interjecting in the Jews narrative - see how wonderful the manna is? But they kept complaining.

R' Frand observed that the concept of HaKaras HaTov is found at the end of the parsha as well. The Jews wait for Miriam after she becomes afflicted with Tzara'as. Rashi explains that the Jews waited for Miriam in the zechus of her waiting and watching Moshe after he was put in the basket.

R' Frand then quoted an amazing Medrash which states that when Moshe was told by Hashem to leave Yisro and go back to Egypt in order to take the Jews out, Moshe said to Hashem that he could not immediately do it. He said that he first needed to ask Yisro's permission as Yisro had taken him in like a father.

R' Frand asked - who owed who? Who got the better end of the deal? Moshe got the former high priest of Midyan as his father in law, but Yisro got Moshe as a son in law! And at the time, Yisro could not find someone for his daughters as he was shunned for leaving the priesthood of idol worshippers. But still, Moshe found it more important to honor his father in law and show his appreciation for what Yisro had done for him, before answering Hashem's call to lead the Jews.

R' Frand observed that often someone does something nice for another and the recipient brushes it off with the rationalization - he was already going my way, or he gets paid to do this. Its important to always recognize the good that someone else has done for you.

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Thursday, June 1, 2023

Thursday's Parsha Tidbits - Parshas Nasso

The following is a brief summary of some of thoughts said over by R' Frand on the parsha this evening. I have attempted to reproduce these vorts to the best of my ability. Any perceived inconsistency is the result of my efforts to transcribe the shiur and should not be attributed to R' Frand.

Parshas Nasso begins with Hashem telling Moshe to count the sons of Gershon. R' Frand observed that in Parshas Bamidbar Moshe had been commanded to count the sons of Kehas and that the Medrash quotes the pasuk in Mishlei - יְקָ֣רָה הִ֖יא מִפְּנִינִ֑ים to describe the fact that Kehas is counted first. This is because even though Gershon was the oldest of the sons of Levi, Kehas was counted first because he carried the Aron which contained the Luchos.

R' Frand then asked - since Kehas was the oldest, why was he not given the task to carry the Aron and that way the sons could have been counted in order? He answered by quoting the Klei Yakar which explains that while certain tribes/subsets of tribes were given certain responsibilities, the Torah belongs to no tribe. Had Kehas been given the role of carrying the Aron, it would have the appearance that the Torah belongs to the eldest or most honorable. By choosing the family of the second son to carry the Aron and then mentioning them first, the Torah demonstrates Kavod HaTorah comes before age/stature.

R' Frand said a second vort based on a Medrash about R' Meir. One Friday night R' Meir gave a shiur which was attended by a local woman. By the time that she returned home the candles in her home had gone out and her husband was quite upset. He asked her - where were you? She replied that she had been at the shiur. The husband said that she could not return to the home until she had spat in the eye of R' Meir.

R' Meir was subsequently visited by Eliyahu HaNavi who told him about the husband's statement and further told R' Meir that he needed to remedy the situation.

R' Meir made an announcement at his next shiur (which the woman was in attendance at) that he needed someone who knew how to say incantations over his eye in order to cure it. The woman stepped up and said - I can do it. Then when she was standing over him, she spat in his eye, to which R' Meir told her that she should return home and tell her husband about the great power of Shalom.

R' Frand quoted R' Elya Lopian Ztl who asked - why did R' Meir need to arrange for this? He could have just told the husband to knock off this nonsense and take her back, rather than be embarrassed by having her spit in his eye?

He answered that R' Meir learned from the Sotah. While Hashem could have set some other process in order to determine whether she had strayed, instead the Kohain is instructed to erase the pesukim including the name of Hashem in order to create the Mei Sotah. If Hashem is willing to suffer the indignity of having His name erased in order to bring peace between husband and wife, R' Meir could allow for this woman to spit in his eye.

R' Frand said a third vort which he heard from R' Shraga Neuberger in the name of R' Tzadok M'Lublin. He asked a question - if a person decided to observe all the laws of Nazir - not becoming Tamei, not consuming wine and not cutting his hair, would he have the same level of Kedusha as a Nazir? The answer is no as without making the vow of becoming a Nazir he has not become one.

R' Tzadok explains that this is why the Nazir is mentioned so close to Birkas Kohanim in the parsha. We learn from Birkas Kohanim the power of speech as the Berachos are transformative. Similarly in order to obtain the Kedusha of Nazir, he must make the declaration aloud.

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